John Murray, the Counsellor at C1 Chiropractic Health Centre posted this great bit of thinking:
Frustrated?
That is not a very enjoyable place to be.
By the time most people think of seeking counselling, they usually feel they have exhausted all other options. For most people, it’s not an easy decision to ask for professional help. More often than not, it’s a feeling of “last resort” that brings people to a counsellor. This doesn’t necessarily have to be the case.
Some people choose to be proactive – that means they seek professional help before things get too intense for them to deal with on their own. It makes perfect sense really, like following the core stability exercises seen in our very own blog! Seeing a counsellor and taking through what is on your mind is an excellent way of maintaining your own mental health, and therefore being more content with your life. It’s much easier to take care of problems before they grow to become problems!
“I’ve tried everything!”
That’s what a lot of people say at in their first counselling session. The good news is… it’s probably not true.
The truth is that most people have sincerely tried everything…that is … everything that they (or their friends) can think of. The good news is that people almost never really think of everything.
So how can this benefit me? It can benefit you because it means that there are still other ideas that you simply haven’t thought of yet – new ideas which may help to move towards your own goals, or to move towards a more comfortable place in your life.
This is where a professional counsellor or therapist can be a great help. Professional counsellors and therapists are trained to see new possibilities where others do not. They are also trained to enable people to use their own creativity in a new way, so that they can find their own new solutions – something they haven’t yet considered.
It’s easy to abandon hope… but, it’s not very helpful.
Remember, not all counsellors have the same point of view. Each one sees life differently. Each one approaches their work a little differently. If you have experienced a counsellor who is not helpful to you, then you may need another perspective, and a fresh approach. There is no single counsellor who can help you to see all the possibilities… because all the possibilities are simply too large for any one individual to see – even for a truly wise person.
Even though you may feel like you have tried everything…
You have never exhausted all of your possibilities.
When you make yourself willing to explore new strategies…
there is good reason to hope.
John Murray [john@johnmurraycounselling.co.uk]
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